Cheating

A lot of people have been discussing cheating recently, and I think it's such an interesting topic, because the internet is changing how people cheat. How do you define cheating?

Any sexual interaction (outside of an off-color joke) with someone who's not your spouse/significant other is absolutely cheating. I think most people agree with me, but I had a weird discussion with a friend of a friend that kind of made me wonder where other people's minds are on this issue.

One time, I told that guy that I thought that regular, away-from-the-spouse porn watching was kind of like cheating, too, and the guy flipped his lid. He just thought it was normal to look at porn by himself all the time. No way, buddy, that's what a girlfriend is for! Get out of magazine/internet land and meet someone who's real! Now, you understand that I am not intending to imply that sex is all that women are good for, I am just making the point that people need to seek out REAL partners. God didn't make Adam and a Playboy.

A friend recently sent me this list:

• Had phone sex, IM sex, or any kind of cybersex with a stranger while in a different relationship.
• Had phone sex, IM sex, or any kind of cybersex with someone you know while in a different relationship.
• Kissed someone else.
• Had sex with an ex while in a different relationship.
• Had sex with someone you'll never see again while in a different relationship.
• Hooked up with someone while you were in the beginning stages of a relationship when you weren't officially a couple.

What do you think? I think they are all forms of cheating, because the intent is similar to the cheating-with-the-secretary type of thing. Even the last one is a bit of a no brainer. If you two said you would be monogamous (which was the only form of dating I tried to do) and then one person is secretly still dating others, then that's cheating.

Do you think technology has changed cheating? Are some of those things on the list not "really" cheating on someone? Is techology just an excuse for bad behavior? I am really interested in hearing what everyone has to say on this.

TV Free Night

Last night (Monday), was TV Free night in the Roseberry Pierce household. What led up to TV Free night was a discussion on Sunday that went something like this:

Enter husband. "Mmm. Dinner smells good."

While cooking, wife says, "Thank you. It will be ready in about a half hour."

Husband: "Can you believe how much we accomplished today? It's almost like time goes by too fast when you watch TV, but when you turn it off, you have so much time to do other things and you get so much more done."

Wife: "Yeah, that's so true. What to keep the TV tomorrow night and see what happens?"

Husband: "Yeah, let's do it!"

Last night, we talked and cooked together, went for a walk, looked over some estimates for a contractor, worked-out and played some board games...all in the space of 3 hours. Amazing.

Maybe we should have TV Free nights more often. Does anyone else out there do TV Free nights? Just curious.